Should You Reward Your Kids for Good Grades? Why or Why Not?
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Is achieving good grades reward enough, or do you as parents need to reward your kids with something more tangible, like a dinner or money.
What have you done with your kids? What were some factors that went into choosing to give a reward or not?
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Robin Bermel
8:09 pm on Wednesday, November 30, 2011
My kids are still young enough that they don't get "good" or "bad" grades. I do believe in motivating children uniquely and not necessarily equally. What works for one may not work for another. I expect we will use some form of incentive, as we use them all the time now. I have been warned that the incentives get a lot more expensive!
Gary
12:09 am on Thursday, December 1, 2011
The book "The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child"
... is perhaps the most tragically mis-titled book ever published. The title should be:
"Behavior Modification Through Positive Incentives"
This method can be used for so much more than just "defiant" children.
I am not a crunchy-granola type of guy... no offense to you crunchy-granola people, but crunching granola would not have gotten my children to stay in bed at night. This book did.
I didn't believe a word of it, but we did it to the letter and it worked exactly as he said it would. It can not be used to reward good grades, the time frame is too long, but will be excellent for developing the discipline necessary so that your children will learn to perform at their best level on their own.
It's basically a method that involves positive feedback and small rewards.
Buy it, read it, do it, and prepared to be amazed.
Jim Powers
12:11 am on Thursday, December 1, 2011
Thanks, Gary. It's so great to have a dad comment here. And thanks for sharing the book with our readers.